Being Responsible for Our Actions

What makes us make the wrong choices and then not accept the responsibility if they are the wrong choices? One reason is that it is much easier to blame someone else than it is to admit we are wrong. No one likes to be wrong and especially when they did not listen to their own conscious before taking action on something that could go either way; positive or negative.

Like most things in life; sometimes it takes a lot of self discipline when taking responsibility for our actions when it means that we may have to own up to something that was a mistake and especially if it hurt someone else. Most of us want to succeed in life; personally, financially and professionally. It reallly doesn't matter to some people how they do it. They will walk all over other people in the office to get the last word in so that they can make an impression. They seem to think that this makes them more knowledgable and that management will give them a brownie point. Not so. Why, because usually these people are notice only for their ability to out talk the next person and indicates an inability to promote other people's opinions. A lot of times, these people go without promotions because they have made the mistake of thinking about themselves only and not giving the rest of the group a chance to expound their thoughts and beliefs. They can't see their irresponsible error and they are not seeking strong leadership abilities. There are many steps to becoming someone who can lead others.

The cure for the above would be to step back and ask themselves a few important questions. Look at their own behavior and their peers behavior and especially the person's behavior who got the promotion. (No, not always, but much of the time). More often than not; this person will blame the manager. Not their actions.

It is nature to want the impossible sometimes. We all starve for life to be an easy process. Life just isn't like that. We strive for things which are beyond our grasp and then we wonder why these things do not come to us easily or at all. In our striving, we then make decisions that "might" help us reach our goals yet we do not stop to take a look at what could happen if the results are not positive. Then we want to play the blame game again; even when we know that we should have taken a closer look at the possible inappropriate outcome.

As in any personal growth or advancement; one step toward success in our life is to first know that we and only we are responsible for our actions. Our decisions are made by no one but us when it is all said and done. We do not always listen to that still small voice, we simply act with the desire to have what we think we want or need at that moment and then it is time to try and make ourself feel better by not taking the responsibility. The outcome is not always pleasant and in fact sometimes it is devastating and destroys important relationships in our life.

I wish I had the ability to help save all humans from making those disasterous mistakes, but then again, no one can make decisions for others; right? The decisions about life are our own making and taking responsibility for those decisions are part of growing into being the human we need to be.

 "The price of greatness is responsibility."   - Winston Churchill

"The man who complains about the way the ball bounces, is likely to be the one who dropped it." - Lou Holtz

"Ninety-nine percent of all failures come from people who have a habit of making excuses."

- George Washington Carver

"All blame is a waste of time.  No matter how much fault you find with another, and regardless of how much you blame him, it will not change you." - Dr. Wayne Dyer